Saturday, December 15, 2012

How Would You Feel?

I recently planned an elementary and middle school reunion for my friends and I. I have started planning it since mid-October and had around 10 people reply back to me out of 60 people that were invited.

I am getting this rally uncomfortable feeling that people do not want to see me or see each other. People had two months to figure out if they can make it to the reunion and in the end three people (including myself) can go. I have made updates throughout those two months and still the same number of people have replied.

There are several reasons why someone would not want to come to this reunion:
  1. They have made prior plans on the day of the event before I even sent them the invite (which was mid-October).
  2. They do not like me.
  3. They don't like or want to see other people who were invited to the event.
  4. They are not proud of where they are in their lives and don't want other people to know.
I get that people may have their reasons for not coming but any of the responses from 2 to 4 should not be a reason. Most of these people are in their 20s and you would think they would mature by that age. I am going to admit, being in your 20s is not easy at all. It is a crazy time of your life because you are trying to figure out who you are and where you want to be in your life. That is why I thought it would be a great idea to create this event as a way to catch up with people and to network. Networking is the best thing you can do in your life. It can help you with your future career and can benefit both parties. We are a support system and you are not alone if you are having problems in your life. We are all going through it.

I know my elementary and middle school would never hold a reunion for us, so I took the initiative to create this event. Who doesn't want to see how their past friends are doing? Facebook can only tell you so much and it's kind of creepy if you think about it. I'd rather get to know someone in person, especially if I have seen them in the past.

In the end, I have cancelled the event because I didn't want to waste the time of those two guys who agreed to come to this event. I was expecting to have at least 10 people show up but I guess this is not the case. I really do appreciate the two guys that have said yes to coming to the reunion but I honestly did not want to waste their time when they could have been doing something else.

What confuses me about all of this is that I have met these people when I was kid then we have added each other on Facebook a few years later. And now they don't want to see me in person. Why is this? Can someone please explain this to me because this makes no sense at all.


  1. To be honest...if I was invited to a reunion like this I wouldn't go. I have people from elementary school on Facebook, but I haven't seen them in years.
    This is a difficult time of year to make plans. For example, I didn't make solid Dec plans until November which means going out of town at the end of the month.

    People should at least respond with a 'not attending' RSVP to be courteous, but to each their own I guess.

    Just spend that time with family and/or friends instead.

    Happy Holidays

    1. Why would you be Facebook friends with someone from elementary school if you don't plan on seeing them anytime in the near future? I do plan on spending my time with family and friends and happy holidays to you too.

    2. It is like being friends with an exes parents and/or siblings - just because you are FB friends doesn't mean you want to see them again.

      I also went to elementary school about 6 hours away from where I live I wouldn't make a trip just for that.

    3. But you are still seeing their life through FB. It just seems weird to me.